How to choose the best baby massage oil: an evidence-based guide for new parents
Baby massage is more than just a set of therapeutic strokes - it's a beautiful ritual that deepens the bond between you and your baby. It’s a way to slow down, connect, and support your baby’s development and attachment through nurturing touch. But one common question I get asked in my courses is:
"What oil should I use for baby massage?"
It’s a great question - and one that really matters. The oil you choose sits directly on your baby’s delicate skin (the largest organ in the human body) and becomes part of their sensory experience with you. When it comes to baby skin care generally, my approach is always less is more and it’s no different when choosing a massage oil. Here's everything you need to know to choose the right massage oil for your baby with confidence.
What to Look for in a Baby Massage Oil
Cold-Pressed
Cold-pressed oils are extracted without heat or harsh chemicals, which helps preserve their natural nutrients. This makes them gentler and safer for your baby’s sensitive skin.
Unscented
Scent is one of your baby’s most powerful tools for connection. The smell of their primary caregiver is a key safety signal that helps them regulate and bond. That's why I recommend avoiding essential oils or added fragrances - your baby wants you, not a lavender-scented version of you at this stage.
Non-Food-Based
According to the latest recommendations from The Australasian Society of Clinical Immunology and Allergy (ASCIA), it’s best to avoid using food-based oils (like coconut, almond, or olive oil) on your baby’s skin before solids are introduced. This is because applying food proteins to the skin before exposure via the gut may increase the risk of sensitisation and food allergies later on. Of course, many cultures have used food-based oils for centuries. This is something for you to consider within the context of your own family taking into account any history of allergies.
Organic (When Possible)
Organic oils offer added reassurance that you’re avoiding pesticides or chemical additives. While not essential, it's a great bonus if you can find a high-quality organic option.
My top recommended oils for baby massage
After years of working with new mums as a postpartum doula and infant massage instructor, these are the oils I trust and recommend in both my in-person and online courses:
1. Grapeseed Oil
A lightweight, cold-pressed, and unscented oil that absorbs easily and won’t leave the skin feeling greasy. Packed with antioxidants and vitamins, it’s nourishing and gentle on the skin with anti-inflammatory properties. Coming from the seed of a grape, it is technically a food product but it isn’t associated with any common allergies, it’s easily accessible and affordable which is why it’s a go-to favourite in my courses.
2. Jojoba Oil
Technically a wax, jojoba closely resembles the skin's natural sebum, which means it’s easily absorbed and won’t leave skin greasy. It's especially good for babies with dry or flaky skin and tends to be very well tolerated.
3. Carefully curated oil blends
There are a handful of beautiful blends created specifically for baby massage - cold-pressed, unscented, and dermatologically tested. A personal favourite is an Australian-owned My Bebe The Label. I’ve used this in my classes and have exclusive discount codes for families who join.
Oils to Avoid
Please avoid these options, especially for newborns:
Essential Oils and fragrances – Even when diluted, they can be overpowering for babies.
Mineral oils – derived from petroleum, they can irritate skin, often include additives that aren’t baby-safe and can leave the baby greasy and slippery to handle.
Special consideration for babies with eczema or broken skin
If your baby has eczema, broken skin, or any kind of irritation, it's best to speak with your GP or paediatrician before applying any oils. Babies with compromised skin barriers may need specific medical-grade products or ointments tailored to their condition.
How to Use and Store Your Oil
Do a small patch test the first time you use any new oil.
Warm it in your hands before applying to baby’s skin.
Store it in a cool, dark place with the lid closed tightly.
A little goes a long way - you only need a few drops per area.
I’ve poured my heart into designing baby massage experiences that centre both baby and mum. The oils I recommend reflect that care - gentle, simple, and supportive of bonding.
Whether you’re joining me in person or online, I want you to feel confident and supported every step of the way. Baby massage is a beautiful, grounding ritual - and choosing the right oil is part of creating that experience.
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